leahcocaLeah Coca

Wife to an amazing husband, mommy to four cherished babies, daughter of the Most High.

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Ten Things I’ve Learned in Ten Years of Marriage

My husband and I recently celebrated 10 years of marriage. TEN. YEARS. Because this feels like kind of a milestone, I thought I’d blog about some of what I’ve learned after a decade of covenanting myself to another person. Even if it’s not that huge of a deal. Even if some of it is silly.
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How to Love The Mean People

(Disclaimer: This post is about loving those who are rude and inconsiderate, *not* those who are manipulative and/or abusive. If there’s someone in your life who is abusive, please seek help and professional counsel if you have not already done so.)  Recently God has been teaching me the beauty in loving “unlovely” people. Here’s a
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Abortion, Evolution and Atheism: Why Richard Dawkins’ Beliefs about Children with Down Syndrome Should not Surprise Us

“Given a free choice of having an early abortion or deliberately bringing a Down child into the world, I think the moral and sensible choice would be to abort.” — Richard Dawkins Every once in a while I come across something that grips me so completely, I cannot rest until I have processed through it,
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Worst Mom Ever

(The above picture was taken on Mother’s Day, 2014. My children’s restaurant etiquette usually ensures that I will end up feeling like The Worst Mom Ever.) I don’t know about you, but nothing makes me feel more like the “worst mom ever” than when my children embarrass me, and nothing embarrasses me more than my children
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NOT ANOTHER MOMMY BLOG!

Hello and welcome to Sticky Doorknobs and Everyday Grace! I’m so glad that you are here and hope you’ll stick around. This blog originated out of deep heartbreak for me, after I found out during a twenty week ultrasound that the baby I was carrying (my fourth) had a fatal birth defect called anencephaly. I
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Weeping With Those Who Weep

Well, hello! After quite a long hiatus, I’m breaking the blog-silence to write about something that has been on my heart. I have been contacted several times over the past year and a half since Elizabeth Grace went to be with Jesus by people who have recently learned that someone they know has lost a
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From a Father’s Heart

My wonderful Dad, Ken Lopez, wrote this shortly after Elizabeth’s passing. It is a strong and beautiful testament to the sovereignty of God and the sanctity of life. (And, if I possess any writing ability at all, it was obviously inherited from him.) It is what one does as a father. It is part of
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Memorials

I have always loved Easter Sunday. A day to celebrate our Savior’s triumphant resurrection, His defeat over death. It’s the reason for our hope—long term and day to day. This Easter has held even more significance as I reflect on the gospel, knowing that it’s because of Christ’s death, burial and resurrection that I will
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Saying Goodbye

I have been writing and re-writing this post in my head for days. I knew that it would be the hardest, and honestly, I’ve kind of been avoiding it. Watching our baby girl slip away was much more difficult than I could have imagined, although I’m sure there’s nothing I could have done to “prepare”
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The Gift of Forty-eight Hours

I had tried to prepare myself to say goodbye to Elizabeth. I wasn’t sure exactly what it would look like, or exactly how I’d make it through this, but for twenty weeks I’d lived with the knowledge that my baby girl would be born with a fatal condition and that we’d likely not have much
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Elizabeth’s Birth Story

I’ve been gathering up my thoughts and my courage to write about our time with Elizabeth Grace. I plan to do so in a series of posts. I want to share the details because I feel like so many of you have been so invested in our story. The sheer amount of facebook messages I’ve
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Still Waiting

Well, here we are, last night, heading to the hospital after being told to come on in. We got there around 6:30 and were told to head to the waiting room. I knew things were busy because of how crowded it was. Lots of people, lots of noise, lots of waiting. Not exactly how I’d
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Due Date

Elizabeth Grace is due today, but I’m thinking she didn’t get that memo, which is more than fine with me. I am thrilled to get to keep her in for as long as possible, although I’m not sure how much longer that will be. I’ve been dilated to 1 and a half centimeters for at
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Blessings

Last weekend my wonderful friends gave me and Elizabeth Grace a beautiful and meaningful “blessing brunch.” I was so honored and so humbled by their generosity and sincerity. Everything was gorgeous! And delicious… But the best part was the company! My mom and sis got to be there: And so did my Mother-in-love: My highschool
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Joy and Pain

“There’s only one address anyone lives at and it’s always a duplex: Joy and pain always co-habit every season of life. Accept them both and keep company with the joy while the pain does its necessary renovations.” Ann Voskamp Thank goodness somebody said it. And in her New Year’s post, no less! With all the
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Sweet Elizabeth

This morning marked what should be the last appointment with my high risk OB before I deliver. I didn’t realize this beforehand, otherwise I probably would have tried to savor the ultrasound even more than I did. The news was all good. The first thing I was told was that she is in the head
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Charlotte’s First (Professional) Manicure

We were able to go “home” to South Florida the week of thanksgiving and were blessed to see lots of friends and family while down there. My youngest sister, Amy, even came down from the Big Apple for a few days. We hadn’t seen her in almost a year, so it was especially nice to
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Guest Post: “Learning to be a Thanks Giver”

This week, in light of Thanksgiving, and because my husband is a much better writer than I am, I’m sharing his most recent article at The Patriot Update, where he writes weekly. Obviously, I am incredibly thankful for him. “It’s the week of Thanksgiving, one of our most important American holidays, and a writer would
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The Duggar Debate

I hadn’t necessarily planned to use my blog as a soap box for anything (other than God’s grace), but I’m going to go a little controversial and jump on up there. The heated debate that sparks up every time the Duggars announce that they’re once again expecting always makes me a little feisty and this
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Halloween and Hypochondria

Things have been busy around here and our sticky doorknobs are even stickier than usual thanks to that oh-so-anticipated last day of October. Actually, this was the first Halloween my kids went out trick or treating. All three of them were big fans of dressing up in costumes. OK, Sophia doesn’t look like a super
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In Which I Break My Foot While Scoping out the Haunted House my Husband Wants to Buy

It’s just so ridiculous. I’m turning into my mother. NOT because she’s ridiculous. My mother is sweet, precious and wonderful…and also happens to be the most accident prone person on the planet. Freak incidents hound her. Injuries afflict her. And I think it might be genetic… For those who may not know, we are renting
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Elizabeth Update

A wonderful friend had this made for me and gave it to me this week. The artist’s work is simply beautiful. You can check it out at http://www.redletterwords.com/ Thank you so much, Lisa, I absolutely adore it! Yesterday I had an appointment with the high risk OB who gave the original diagnosis of anencephaly six
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Lately…

We’ve had a lot of out of town company, which we love. Both my family and my husband’s family live in South Florida–a good 10 hour drive to where we live in Northwest Georgia. We make it down there often (thanks to my husband’s teacher schedule!) or they take a few vacation days to come
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Elizabeth Grace

First things first, we’ve officially come up with a name for baby girl. Disclaimer: We reserve the right to change it at the last minute if we’re so inclined, but I’m pretty sure we’re settled on Elizabeth Grace. Since the day we found out I was pregnant, my husband has said that this baby is
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All is Grace

Is it completely cliché to create a blog after receiving life-altering news? Probably, but I’m doing it anyway. I’ve actually been toying with the idea for months now. I’ve always enjoyed writing and my children are wildly entertaining. I’ve had the title “Sticky Doorknobs” picked out for a while. Up until recently my life has
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